Oh, to be a new mom. It’s the most magical, paradoxical, sleep-deprived, stress-ridden time in a woman’s life. While all of the above is and was true for new mamas throughout history, there’s no doubt that during COVID-19, with confusion and loneliness surrounding us, those feelings can be more heightened than ever.
What is it that makes these otherwise magical first weeks and months when you get to know your little bundle of joy so stressful? No, it’s not only hormones. Here are some more factors that add up to postpartum difficulty:
Identity- after decades of being you, with your career achievements, sense of style and killer humor, suddenly this long-awaited tiny bundle arrives and you become “Mom”. Functioning as the feeder and soother rather than yourself is enough to raise internal flags and send you on a quest to make peace between your former identity and this newly formed one. Not completely feeling like the body you see in the mirror is yours is another contributing factor.
Expectations- it doesn’t matter how realistic we are, we still have the perfect picture of being the perfect new mom (thanks, Instagram!). When setting expectations from yourself, it’s important to keep in mind that your body has just gone through a major process. You are tired, often in pain and probably overwhelmed, both emotionally and physically.
Sleep- sleep deprivation is a form of torture, and that’s something every new parent deeply understands. Yes, you’ve already pulled all nighters in college or early in your career, but then you didn’t have to wake up the next morning every 3 hours to a teething baby.
Hormones- Yes, I know you’re sick of hearing “it’s the hormones”, but going through an hormonal roller coaster definitely doesn’t make it any easier.
Loneliness- dealing with all of the above while caring for a little one isn't easy. In fact, it’s very challenging. Many new moms find it hard to speak and share these emotions with those closest to them, who might be just as stressed and sleep-deprived (or at least close) and maybe not in the best place for listening. Social distancing is a massive contributor to that loneliness, naturally.
3 Ways a Postpartum Specialist Can Help with Health-Life Balance:
Guide and empower you to take control of your life and feel centered again
Regain healthy eating habits that are a good fit for your new-baby routine, make sure you’re getting the nutrients your body needs and tailor your nutrition if you’re breast-feeding
Provide emotional support and empower you through this transition
Make sure that your body is getting enough time to heal and help you plan your return to physical activity